How to Talk to Your Partner About ED

A practical guide to breaking the silence and getting the support you need

Let’s be honest. Most men would rather do almost anything than talk about erectile dysfunction. Especially with a partner.

Even though ED is incredibly common, it often brings up feelings of shame, guilt, or fear of rejection. Many men keep it to themselves, quietly hoping it will go away on its own.

But here’s the truth. Silence often makes things worse. It creates distance, confusion, and a lot of unnecessary stress, for both of you.

The good news is, you don’t have to have a perfect, polished speech. Just a bit of honesty and a willingness to talk is enough to start feeling supported and understood.

Here’s how to open up about ED without embarrassment.

1. Start Before the Bedroom

The worst time to talk about ED is during or immediately after sex. Tensions are high, emotions are raw, and you’re more likely to feel defensive or misunderstood.

Choose a relaxed moment instead. Maybe you’re walking the dog, cooking together, or lying in bed without pressure to perform.

Keep it casual, like:

“Hey, there’s something I’ve been meaning to talk to you about. It’s not easy to bring up, but I think it’ll help us if I do.”

This gives your partner a heads-up without making it feel too heavy.

2. Be Honest (But Not Dramatic)

You don’t need to apologise or over-explain. Just be real.

“Lately, I’ve noticed things haven’t been working as well for me during sex. It’s been stressing me out more than I’ve let on, and I just wanted to talk to you about it.”

This helps your partner understand that it’s something you’re aware of and want to address, not ignore or avoid.

3. Reassure Them It’s Not About Them

Partners often blame themselves when sex changes. They might think you’re not attracted to them anymore or that something is wrong in the relationship.

Make it clear that’s not the case.

“This has nothing to do with you. You’re not the problem. I think it’s something going on with me physically, and I want to get it sorted.”

That one sentence can remove a lot of doubt and worry from their mind.

4. Explain What You’re Doing About It

This part is powerful. It shows leadership and helps both of you move forward.

“I’ve been looking into what might be causing it, and I found some options that don’t involve just relying on pills. I’ve actually downloaded a free info pack from a clinic that treats ED by getting to the root cause.”

Now you’re not just opening up, you’re taking action. That’s something most partners will respect and appreciate.

5. Invite Their Support (If You Want It)

Not every partner needs to be involved in every step of your treatment, but letting them in can strengthen your bond.

“I’d love your support while I figure this out. You don’t need to do anything, just knowing we’re on the same page makes a difference.”

You might be surprised by how relieved and supportive they are.

6. Keep the Conversation Going

This isn’t a one-off chat. It’s okay if the first conversation feels a bit awkward. What matters is that you’ve opened the door.

As you take steps toward treatment and things start to improve, keep checking in with each other. Share wins, even the small ones. Celebrate progress together.

ED affects both of you, but so does recovery.

Final Thoughts

Talking about ED doesn’t have to be a big, dramatic event. It just needs to be real. Most partners don’t want perfection. They want honesty, connection, and to feel like you’re in this together.

At Men’s Room, we help men treat the root cause of ED with shockwave therapy, pelvic floor training, and lifestyle support. But we also know that emotional support at home makes a huge difference too.

Download our free ED Info Pack or book a free call if you're ready to start fixing this properly.

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